Day 22 - What makes me different
This one is pretty difficult...
For the most part, I'm a pretty conventional person. I've had my share of hard times that I've overcome, and I've had my normal boring everyday life. That seems pretty much like everyone else that I've ever met.
So what makes me different from everyone else? I don't really know.
I think I'll just relate an experience I've had that actually isn't too typical. When my son was born, I was working for a solo practicioner attorney. He was tired of the struggle though, and let me know he had applied for a position as an attorney for the Department of Children and Families. However, they always took forever to approve of hirings so we both though there was plenty of time to work his current caseload before I had to worry about finding anther position. When I went into labor four weeks early, after I called my boss to let him know I had a very good excuse as to why I would not be showing up for work on Monday, he told me that he'd been notified that he was hired by DCF. Which meant, instead of having a normal maternity leave, I had to start stressing out immediately about what I was going to do for work. I wasn't able to apply for unemployment because I couldn't technically work after having a c-section. My ex had just lost yet another job and wasn't workng, so we were going to have no income. I wasn't receiving any paid time off with my job at the time, in fact, no benefits at all, so it was a struggle. Instead I had a two week maternity leave followed by a return to the office to start trying to finalize what we could before referring cases to other attorneys to complete the work. This would be one of the reasons I had a difficult time when I first became a mother, I wasn't able to spend that precious time that I should have been able to because some one had to support the family.
Fortuitously enough, a friend of my mother's worked for the law firm that I currently work for, and they had an open position. I faxed over my resume, got an interview and got hired when my son was three weeks old. I started working there when he was four weeks old, and have been there now for over seven years.
I think that experience makes me different from many other mothers out there in the world. I didn't get the opportunity to bond with my baby for very long. I thank god every day though, that I've had the chance to make that up to him, and now we are closer than I ever imaged we would be.
For the most part, I'm a pretty conventional person. I've had my share of hard times that I've overcome, and I've had my normal boring everyday life. That seems pretty much like everyone else that I've ever met.
So what makes me different from everyone else? I don't really know.
I think I'll just relate an experience I've had that actually isn't too typical. When my son was born, I was working for a solo practicioner attorney. He was tired of the struggle though, and let me know he had applied for a position as an attorney for the Department of Children and Families. However, they always took forever to approve of hirings so we both though there was plenty of time to work his current caseload before I had to worry about finding anther position. When I went into labor four weeks early, after I called my boss to let him know I had a very good excuse as to why I would not be showing up for work on Monday, he told me that he'd been notified that he was hired by DCF. Which meant, instead of having a normal maternity leave, I had to start stressing out immediately about what I was going to do for work. I wasn't able to apply for unemployment because I couldn't technically work after having a c-section. My ex had just lost yet another job and wasn't workng, so we were going to have no income. I wasn't receiving any paid time off with my job at the time, in fact, no benefits at all, so it was a struggle. Instead I had a two week maternity leave followed by a return to the office to start trying to finalize what we could before referring cases to other attorneys to complete the work. This would be one of the reasons I had a difficult time when I first became a mother, I wasn't able to spend that precious time that I should have been able to because some one had to support the family.
Fortuitously enough, a friend of my mother's worked for the law firm that I currently work for, and they had an open position. I faxed over my resume, got an interview and got hired when my son was three weeks old. I started working there when he was four weeks old, and have been there now for over seven years.
I think that experience makes me different from many other mothers out there in the world. I didn't get the opportunity to bond with my baby for very long. I thank god every day though, that I've had the chance to make that up to him, and now we are closer than I ever imaged we would be.
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